(“We are not groupies,” Hudson’s character says. “Groupies sleep with rock stars because they want to be near someone famous. We’re here because of the music. We are band aides.”)
“I hate that term because it is a made-up, bulls— term,” Des Barres said. “Groupies are girls who love music and want to be around it. A ‘band aide’ is a movie term. Cameron (Crowe, the film’s director) was putting groupies down by using that term.
“I’ve been wanting to redeem the word ‘groupie,’ ” she continued. “Anyone who doesn’t like that word is just jealous or sexist or afraid of sex.”
And while it may seem Des Barres and her Sunset Strip sisters were all about sex, and never took a single step of a Walk of Shame, their emotions still got stomped from time to time.
“Your heart hurts a lot when you don’t get what you want,” she said. “But you expect the situation. You get involved with Jimmy Page or Mick Jagger or Keith Moon, and there is always a hope that he will take you everywhere.
“But you know down deep it is not going to happen,” she continued. “You have to have a certain strength to be a groupie. You had to accept that your guy was going to go to a different city and be with someone else.”
“But that free-love, ’60s mentality doesn’t exist anymore,” she said. “That’s why it’s been mythologized. The music has been, too.”
Des Barres is still a backstage regular. The other night, she visited “Weird Al” Yankovic after his show in Santa Barbara.
“He cheers you up, you know?” Des Barres said. “It’s a really happy-making experience, and it’s so important at this time, the way the world is.”
Not quite Led Zeppelin. But still.